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January 28, 2008

Fun Planning Ahead!

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The funk from my most recent infusion has passed and I’m ready to face the world with full energy and daily appreciation. I’ve been idle and anxiously waiting a bit of special planning. I haven’t shared with all of you an event that is taking place May 25. It appears that Dick is becoming more romantic with time, as he has suggested that we renew our marriage vows.

Our wedding anniversary date is July 22….the same date of my initial cancer diagnosis. When our anniversary approached this past July, neither of us wanted to celebrate. Just before Christmas, Mr. Romantic announced to me that he would like to change our anniversary date to May 25, the date of our first date.

Well, he didn’t just announce his intentions to me, but pulled our very dear friends, Sue & Bill, into the idea at the same time. They agreed on the spot to open their beautiful new home to our friends and family. This is a tremendous and thoughtful gesture on their part as they are moving into their new home in March! Pretty gutsy of my husband, don’t you think?

So…I feel like a bride again. Planning and preparing for a beautiful ceremony and celebration. A celebration of life and living! Dick thinks more about my emotional health than I give him credit for. I know that part of his intention was a new anniversary date…but it is also something for me to wake up and think about every day. Something to look forward to….even during my less light days.

Eileen and I are off to Stillwater today to look for the perfect dress. There is a special little store by the name of Our Shop that has always put me into fantasy world every time I pass it. We’re going in today and fulfilling that fantasy. Simply amazing.

There are days that marriage feels challenging and quite frankly, difficult. Then the person that ‘chooses’ to be with you through better or worse and with sickness and in health, tells you he would do it all over again. I choose you too, my knight on his white horse coming in and making my world…just that much better.

Posted on January 28, 2008 at 8:11:39 AM by Kathy Bienapfl ( Fun Planning Ahead!, 4 comments)

That is so sweet and sounds like such FUN! You are a lucky women Kathy!

Posted on January 28, 2008 at 5:42:14 PM by jill

I noticed your comment that you said you hate the fear in people’s eyes. I know that I have that fear when I look at my mom. I almost see it when I look at her. I want to make her feel calm and know that I have the strength to do this with her. Any advice? Do you hate when people say, “How are you today?” Everytime I say it I feel almost bad. Thank you for the advice! I am praying for your health!

Posted on January 28, 2008 at 7:06:49 PM by naunie

Kathy,
I am so touched by your story. Thank you for letting others gain strength from your life.
Thank you sooo much.
Wendy

Posted on January 29, 2008 at 9:18:16 AM by wendy (unverified)

Dear Kathy,
that is so wonderful that you and your husband are so in love and taking this memorable and monumental romantic step in your lives. You are both blessed to have each other.
patty

Posted on January 29, 2008 at 5:08:19 PM by ibpati32 (unverified)